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Welcome to The First Years of Marriage Newsletter! We talk about the conversations, challenges, and changes that begin once the honeymoon ends. Advice from experts, mistakes from me (Jen Glantz), and things you’re going to want to know as you continue to ask yourself this question - “I’m married, ow what?”
Should You Go to Marriage Counseling?
When people are struggling, they sometimes feel like they have to stay hush hush about it. They even sometimes feel like there’s no one in the world who could help them get through a tough time.
But one thing that can help a struggling relationship or one that you want to make sure is strong in the future, is some sort of counseling or therapy.
I remember grabbing lunch with a friend I hadn’t seen in years who openly told me about some relationship problems she was having with her husband and how they were in couple’s therapy.
At first, I couldn’t believe she was openly talking about this to a distant friend but it was warm and refreshing.
This was before I was married and I thought about how cool it was that she was taking action in her relationship and it made me wonder about some of the people who might need a push or a feeling that it’s okay to reach out and get help — for all different kinds of reasons.
So today, I want to share some cool resources I’ve found over the years that you might want to eyeball, bookmark, or learn more about.
You can also check out this post when I interviewed a marriage therapist - SO many good tips!
You can start before you’re married
One big misconception is that a couple can’t get therapy when they are just married or engaged, but that’s not true. I found this really awesome couple called OURS. They offer pre-marital counseling and it’s 100% virtual.
Even if you’re not sure that your partner will be up for it, it’s a good idea to learn more about OURS to have some good points of reference when starting the convo with your loved one.
You can get therapy from your couch
I know that for some people, they want to get help and support without going IRL. There are so many virtual options out there, like this one / this one / or this one.
This makes couple’s therapy more accessible and easier to fit into your schedules.
You can also try self-guided options
If you’re looking to try to work on the relationship without getting outside help, you can try some self-guided options instead.
First, there are some free worksheets you can print out and use. Or you can check out this book too.
You can go in-person
Of course, one of the most popular options is to go see someone in-person and if you’re looking for someone to be your marriage/ or pre-marital counselor IRL, here’s a great place to search.
This Week’s Love List:
A great book for anyone who deals with emotion overload or who finds themselves highly sensitive.
Random - but my new fav sunscreen because it’s so smooth on the skin and doesn’t make me breakout.
The Newlywed Card Game: Is officially on AMAZON! We’re proud of that. Grab your game here.
A great gift for yourself - even post-honeymoon
Love you (for as long as we both shall live),
Jen Glantz
Jen Glantz is a whimsical entrepreneur, 3x author, podcast host, and all-around pizza-obsessed goofball.
Here's what she is currently working on:
The Newlywed Card Game // Books // You're Not Getting Any Younger Podcast
Bridesmaid for Hire // Odd Jobs Newsletter // The First Years of Marriage Newsletter
The Monday Pick-Me-Up Newsletter //Jen & Juice Business & Life Coaching // Company Workshops