Welcome to The First Years of Marriage Newsletter! We talk about the conversations, challenges, and changes that begin once the honeymoon ends. Advice from experts, mistakes from me (Jen Glantz), and things you’re going to want to know as you continue to ask yourself this question - “I’m married, so now what?”
Valentine’s day is over. But that doesn’t matter. You’re still married. And sometimes in marriage, we don’t celebrate love daily.
Of course we don’t. We’re BUSY daily. We’re working our real jobs, doing the dishes, fighting over why the other person didn’t use a Bed Bath and Beyond coupon to buy the new blender. UGHH what were you thinking?
But I think we an all agree that love is something we sometimes take for granted and then V-Day happens or our anniversary comes along and we feel like we have to make some sort of big deal because we only celebrate our relationship on TWO DAYS out of the 365-days that encompass the year.
Today let’s chat about this:
How to keep the love flowing after a holiday passes. Here are my ideas.
Plan a Surprise Date
Do this now. Pick a day in the next 2-months and send your partner a calendar invite. Don’t tell them what it’s for or what you are doing. Pick 2-3 fun things for that surprise date. It will make the SPARK! feel alive in your relationship.
Re-Do Valentine’s Day in July
Why not do a V-DAY re-do in July? How random, right? But it could be fun especially if you didn’t really have a great one this year.
Start Eyeballing Your Anniversary
Whether it’s far away or coming up, start planning something meaningful for that day. Perhaps it’s a vow renewal or a vacation. Don’t wait for the last-minute if it’s possible to get started sooner planning it all.
Do a Couple’s Challenge
Pick a challenge for March. What’s something you can work on together? It’ll make you feel closer together to work on something with each other.
Think of 1x a Week Nice Thing
The truth is, most of the days of our lives are ordinary. Can you do 1x nice thing for your partner every week? One simple and easy thing? Think about it. What can you do today even to make them feel super special?
This Week’s Love List:
Make Thank You Notes: One fun thing I’m doing with Adam is making customized thank you cards to use throughout the year. We made them after we got married and ran out! In 2022, it’s time for a new design.
There you go, friends! That’s the newsletter for this week. Leave a comment and share what you think!
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Love you (for as long as we both shall live),